Verum Tuum Aspecias

This is what I think when I compare myself to much more competent to life individuals. I’m not quite as smart, I’m not quite as good looking, I’m not very well cultured, I’m not talented, I can’t do this and I cant do that. It’s a sad depressing thought that I’m sure we all think about but I believe its within human nature to feel this way sometimes.

I believe that this negative thought is essential in a sense that it creates a struggle within us to better ourselves and strive for greatness. We see other individuals who are straight up out of the ordinary far beyond average and ask ourselves why we can’t be like that. well, let me plant a seed of insight… they are human… you are human… whats the difference? The difference is, hard work and determination.

I understand that there are those rare individuals that catch on quickly and have a natural talent to be great at anything they try, but whats even greater is someone who fights, struggles, grows, and has the determination to be just as great or even greater than the best. This person will learn the value if their hard work and feel much more accomplished than if someone was given natural talent.

You have the ability to be great. Verum Tuum Aspecias (Face Your Truth) is a Latin based proverb which in short means “realize reality”. There are 3 important concepts to know about reality. 1.) Acceptance: learn to accept the things you can’t change. 2.) Courage: having the strength to change the things you can. 3.) Wisdom: the ability to distinguish the difference between what you can and cannot change. (The serenity prayer)

All in all, If you want it bad enough, change for the better. Instead of being jealous with the lacking  of a specific quality, look up to someone as a role model and strive to be like them. Set goals for yourself and keep self improving. KAIZEN. There is no limit to your own abilities.

I have observed my brother and his girlfriend for 9 years. I have seen many many hopeless situations where they should have been separated and over. I have witnessed a handful of breakups and fights and makeups. I have come to the understanding that LOVE plays a big part in why they’re still together. 

First off, no matter how bad my brother fucks up and messes up, he never gives up but instead he betters himself. No matter how mad and angry she gets at him, he doesn’t run away but instead he tries to fix things. No matter how many times she says shes going to leave him, he doesn’t let her but instead he runs after her and keeps chasing her. No matter what trouble they get into, they fix it together. No matter how many opportunities come up to give up, he never takes it.

There are things in this world that make us happy. A lot of the time, it’s not so easy to obtain and so we give up on the idea of happiness and trying to keep it. What I learned from observing my Brother is that his girlfriend is his happiness and he knows the importance of not giving up on her. If there is something or someone that makes you happy, don’t give up on them just because things become difficult. The only reason there is to give up on something/someone is if you realize that it’s something that doesn’t make you happy. 

My boyfriend makes me extremely happy and he is super important to me. I know that I will never give up on him because the day I do I know it will be the biggest regret of my life.

When someone is so forgiving that they would forgive anything no matter what and no matter how many times they have to do it, are they considered weak or strong?

Weak because they let people walk all over them and take advantage of them or strong because no matter how many times someone fucks them over they can still manage not to let it bother them and still move on.

Being a friend is just like any other relationship. You have to put in effort. You have to meet half way. There’s friends and then there’s best friends. You get what you give, so if you expect more you need to give more. 

There are acquaintances, people you see from time to time who are always a joy to be around but not to actually make plans with. These people will come and go as they please but at least they wont start any drama.

Friends are the ones who have your back. They were once acquaintances who have stepped up to be more than just that. They took the initiative to be more than what one expects and in return all they want is acknowledgement. They want a mutual relationship where both people take care of one another. It still works out even in long distances where you don’t really have the time to talk to each other, because you know and they know that when it comes down to helping one another, you aren’t going to bail. 

And then there’s wannabes. The people who are after your friendship just for the benifit of your kindness but don’t really care so much about returning any favor or taking any kind of initiative to make you happy. They genuinely care about you but not because they want to but because they don’t want to lose the services you provide (a shoulder to cry on, or a ride when you’re stranded, etc…). They only remember you or talk to you when they need something or want something but never just to hang out or chill or even just to check up on you and ask how you are doing. Don’t let this kind of person take advantage of you because they aren’t really your friend if all you are to them is a tool.

In the bible it says “thau shalt not lie.” So if lying is a sin…and If I pretend to be straight in the eyes of God just to please the people, wouldn’t that be lying to His face? 

I hate when people judge others before getting to know them first. its not right to assume someone is “bad” just because of stories you hear. It’s not right to pass judgement on someone because of the way they dress or their sexual preference. 

You won’t get to know who they are unless you get to know them at a more personal level. You wont understand this just by reading what I have to say either. The only way you will understand this is if you finally accept that no one is perfect, and you yourself is not perfect. No one is better than anyone, were all the same. We all have sinned and we all have shame. 

Now think about your best friend, the one who knows all your secrets and the one who knows you better than anyone else in your life. Now think about you and how fucked up your life is or was. If your best friend judged you based on what he/she heard then you probably wouldn’t be friends right now. or vice-versa with you judging them.

Okay now think about someone you judged once before without giving them a chance to prove themselves to you. Where are they? Most likely they are very distant and not so close to you. But that person might have someone close to them who understands them (a best friend). If you had not judged them in the first place, that best friend could have been you, and the one you judged could have been the next oprah.

my point is you will have these opportunities to meet some of the best people in your life but if all you see in them is negativity then chances are that opportunity will pass you up because you will move on without giving that person a chance. Get to know someone with your own experience and not from what you’ve heard or what you know because chances are what you know is far from the truth.